~The importance of frame control.~

Many times I see young children with mothers. The kid misbehaves, the mother reacts aggressively towards the child. I notice it in poorer neighbourhoods in greater frequency then well off ones.

The child is setting the frame.

The mothers reality here is weak. She is reacting to the child. She is not doing her job correctly. She probably works too much, her husband is probably a dick. She is stressed and living in the past, in the future, in the soap opera that she watches on tv.

Her own life is a soap opera. She flitters to and fro.

All this could easily be changed with her taking a step back, accepting the childs frame, but bringing the child into her own self initiated positive frame as opposed to reacting to the childs negative ego driven frame.

Negative mothers are in large part responisble for the creation of faulty ego's. Negative fathers too.

An old lady I know. Went home one day to find a huge criminal looking male in her house. She of course was scared. Would he try to kill her? Would he take her treasured belongings?

The frame for these few seconds was his. A cornered bear is dangerous.

She could have run away. She could have screamed. These acts would have potentially got her killed. They would have been reactive. She would have been entering the intruders reality.

But this old lady, she has her own unshakable reality so she asks him.

'Are you ok? Would you like a cup of tea and a chat?'

They had tea together. They talked a while about his problems. They talked about her problems. He left.

Now I'm not suggesting being nice to people who intrude into your property. I'm suggesting you take a firm look at your behaviour. When is it reactive, when is it initiating? When is it that other people set the frame and take you into their reality, when is it that you set the frame and let people share with you yours?

If you've been living in the now suggested in the previous post you're going to notice a lot of the things you do, that used to think you did according to your will, were entirely externally caused, they were reactive they were not initiated by the self.

You often will notice your self shouting back at some one. You're going to watch your self shout back. When you never wanted to. It's usually on auto pilot.

It is not very Jedi. You let your self be dragged into their reality. It isn't usually conscious.

I'm not saying you should go about asserting your self everywhere non stop. I'm saying when there is someone who's reality, who's frame, is beautiful by all means let their frame mingle with yours, but when there is someone whose frame is ugly why let your self enter into ugliness?

If you go to night clubs much you're going to notice it a lot. I view them as a speeded up microcosm of society as a whole. The people are many, in a relatively small space. Inhibitions lowered due to alcohol, drugs, the dark. You would be surprised how a seemingly hostile group can be drawn into your reality, brought in line with the frame you set, follow you about the whole night and all it takes is effective frame control, which results from the energy you exude, the body language you exert, the words you speak.

Of greater importance then the what is the how.

As supposedly enlightened Jedi it's important to recognise when it's good to let others frames mingle with yours and when to eliminate their frame entirely and in its place put something else.

Illumination one.

You are not the thinker
Knowing this enables you to observe 'the thinker'. The moment you start watching 'the thinker', a higher level of consciousness becomes activated. You then begin to realise that there is a vast realm of intelligence beyond thought, that thought is only a tiny aspect of that intelligence. You also realise that all the things that truly matter – beauty, love, creativity, joy, inner peace – arise from beyond the mind.
You begin to awaken, freeing yourself from your mind.

~Eckhart Tolle

You are not your thoughts. You are not your emotions.
You're not the fingernails on your fingers ends.
You're not your hands or your feet or your mouth.
You're not your hair.



They're part of you. They're not the essence.
It's important that these words be internalised.

This is not a read me and throw away lecture. What this piece of writing is, is a way of life, a way of mind, a way of BEING.

Internalise the ideas woven in the fabric of these words and you will find your self.
Buddha like.
Laughing.
At one.

Yes. That's what I'm offering here.

Enlightenment. Aura expansion. The greatest you could be.

On a piece of paper, in your computer, it's useless. Left there, it doesn't do anything, you won't have an idea what I'm talking about. It's a process you can only implement within yourself. It raises your self. It is, well, it's quite zen.

The Now

BE now.


1.Empty your mind.

2.There is no past.

3.Likewise, there is no future.



I mean do it. Really do it. Do it now.


You're going to find that what's left when you remove the past, which doesn't really exist, and remove the future



1.There is the now, the current moment. That's all there ever was, that's all there ever is, that's all there ever will be.




Look about you. You're sitting at a computer in a room some where in the world. The screen is bright, the walls are around you. It might be warm or cold and the sun might be shining in through the window. Rain might be falling softly outside.
It's real. It's beautiful, it's depth ridden.
It's rich, like christmas pudding. Its sweet, sweeter then candy. There might be music, maybe silence embraces you.
There is only really the now. It's the gift of existence. Now.
It's all we have, it is what it is.


I used to read about meditation, the emptying of the mind. I always heard it was a good thing, I couldn't see why an empty mind would really be a good thing. It seemed to be covered in mystique.

It takes time to achieve, it takes effort.

Yet the mind is never truly empty. Telling someone not to think is almost like telling someone not to think about elephants.

How can you stop yourself from thinking then? The answer here is you don't. You continue to let your mind think. You let the thoughts come, you accept them, you let them go.



Watch them.

Let them pass.



Was there a sad feeling? Was there a happy one? Well, that's good, the sad feeling, it isn't so awful really. It is what it is.

Underneath it, underneath the ideas, the ever streaming thoughts, underneath the violent emotions, there is an infinite well of joy.



Pure.



Unadulterated.



Joy.

I am. I think. I will.

Ayn Rand, Anthem


I am. I think. I will.

My hands . . . My spirit . . . My sky . . . My forest . . . This earth of mine. . . . What must I say besides? These are the words. This is the answer.

I stand here on the summit of the mountain. I lift my head and I spread my arms. This, my body and spirit, this is the end of the quest. I wished to know the meaning of things. I am the meaning. I wished to find a warrant for being. I need no warrant for being, and no word of sanction upon my being. I am the warrant and the sanction.

It is my eyes which see, and the sight of my eyes grants beauty to the earth. It is my ears which hear, and the hearing of my ears gives its song to the world. It is my mind which thinks, and the judgement of my mind is the only searchlight that can find the truth. It is my will which chooses, and the choice of my will is the only edict I must respect.

Many words have been granted me, and some are wise, and some are false, but only three are holy: "I will it!"

Whatever road I take, the guiding star is within me; the guiding star and the loadstone which point the way. They point in but one direction. They point to me.

I know not if this earth on which I stand is the core of the universe or if it is but a speck of dust lost in eternity. I know not and I care not. For I know what happiness is possible to me on earth. And my happiness needs no higher aim to vindicate it. My happiness is not the means to any end. It is the end. It is its own goal. It is its own purpose.

Neither am I the means to any end others may wish to accomplish. I am not a tool for their use. I am not a servant of their needs. I am not a bandage for their wounds. I am not a sacrifice on their altars.

I am a man. This miracle of me is mine to own and keep, and mine to guard, and mine to use, and mine to kneel before!

I do not surrender my treasures, nor do I share them. The fortune of my spirit is not to be blown into coins of brass and flung to the winds as alms for the poor of the spirit. I guard my treasures: my thought, my will, my freedom. And the greatest of these is freedom.

I owe nothing to my brothers, nor do I gather debts from them. I ask none to live for me, nor do I live for any others. I covet no man's soul, nor is my soul theirs to covet.

I am neither foe nor friend to my brothers, but such as each of them shall deserve of me. And to earn my love, my brothers must do more than to have been born. I do not grant my love without reason, nor to any chance passer-by who may wish to claim it. I honor men with my love. But honor is a thing to be earned.

I shall choose friends among men, but neither slaves nor masters. And I shall choose only such as please me, and them I shall love and respect, but neither command nor obey. And we shall join our hands when we wish, or walk alone when we so desire. For in the temple of his spirit, each man is alone. Let each man keep his temple untouched and undefiled. Then let him join hands with others if he wishes, but only beyond his holy threshold.

For the word "We" must never be spoken, save by one's choice and as a second thought. This word must never be placed first within man's soul, else it becomes a monster, the root of all the evils on earth, the root of man's torture by men, and of an unspeakable lie.

The word "We" is as lime poured over men, which sets and hardens to stone, and crushes all beneath it, and that which is white and that which is black are lost equally in the grey of it. It is the word by which the depraved steal the virtue of the good, by which the weak steal the might of the strong, by which the fools steal the wisdom of the sages.

What is my joy if all hands, even the unclean, can reach into it? What is my wisdom, if even the fools can dictate to me? What is my freedom, if all creatures, even the botched and the impotent, are my masters? What is my life, if I am but to bow, to agree and to obey?

But I am done with this creed of corruption.

I am done with the monster of "We," the word of serfdom, of plunder, of mystery, falsehood and shame.

And now I see the face of god, and I raise this god over the earth, this god whom men have sought since men came into being, this god who will grant them joy and peace and pride.

This god, this one word:

"I."

1. The self stands over everything
2. The self stands over everything
3. The self stands over everything

That methodology is the way towards attraction.

Live in accordance with the rules outlined above. Not the 1,2,3 rules but the much higher rules, written by Ayn Rand, above the 1,2,3 rules.
It looks to me like a Randian prayer, and that's what it was and that's what it is. What worked for the separate human in the 50's when Ayn Rand wrote continues to work now.

That mindset or a mindset similar to it is the key to happiness, and remember happiness is a key to other things, not the kind of happiness that everyone runs about chasing such as the kind you get when you chase a girl and she flatters you and you feel happy until she takes her flattery away. That is needy, externally inspired happiness, that's you becoming happy due to the validation you receive from another separate being.
That is feeding the ever insatiable ego.

You shouldn't need validation from your peers to feel happiness.
You shouldn't need words of support or words from others confirming your self.
Your self shouldn't need confirmation.

At lower levels of understanding-think about how the fish doesn't think, because the fish knows- it isn't a problem, other members of the animal kingdom do not care one incy wincy bit about whether the other animal approves or disproves of their life path.

Validation, the truest kind comes from within, it's not clingy or obsessive and it isn't the feeling of envy that we sometimes interpret as love.

Have you ever noticed how you start to -love- someone when they take themselves away from you?

That isn't love, it's envy, it's fear of loss, it's a lack of trust in I and is probably a relic of early human culture where resources, potential mates, food and everything else was scarce compared with the modern western society where there is an abundance of these necessities.
It's being needy when it's illogical to be needy because logically in modern western society there is an ABUNDANCE of everything you would seriously desire.

Use your self, take validation from within and you will find your self doing what you want and being better then you would be if you behaved in tune with your external validation seeking self motivations